My husband has been cheating on line and physically. We have been married ten plus years with 3 kids. There?

is fault on both sides. He denies he has any problems whatsoever, since he comes home every night, blah, blah, blah. He has secret accounts on yahoo voice, and sex chat lines, etc, and some of you may already know him. He has locked down all accounts, money etc., and is hiding all aspects of his life. The last time we had sex was interesting since some of the things he did HE NEVER DID TO ME IN THE PAST of the 18 plus years I have known him! I believe he is addicted to porn, etc., and he emails his contacts and gives them his yahoo number, etc. IM, etc, and discusses our problems with every one else but me. I believe he is snaky, slimy, He is also having numerous emotion virtual affairs, and the problem I have is he can't give that kind of emotion to me or his kids, but he finds it online. Of course, he DENIES EVERYTHING BEING A TYPICAL MALE AND WILL TAKE IT TO HIS GRAVE. He obviously doesn't take his vows seriously. He tells me his is depressed, getting ****** at work, getting ****** at home, not being kissed (obviously I have no respect or trust of him). Accuses me of having affairs when confronted with other things I have found out, typical about turning it around, and quite frankly never happened). He wants to have his cake and eat it too, pardon the pun! He hides bills, his computer is locked down, and does not give me money because he believes I will use it to find out about his various activities. He is very calm, cool and collective, and thinks he is getting away with things. I will not be second. He spends limited time with this kids, only when it is CONVENIENT FOR HIM. This has been ongoing for the last 5 plus years. I have mentioned marriage counseling,but he wants nothing to do with it,because then he cannot continue with what he is doing, He tells me he is "moving forward" and that since we have kids and still have to communicate in that way, I got the impression that because he thinks this, it is OK for him to go after other woman and keep doing what he is doing because he is "in control." He thinks he has the upper hand because I have no means to "divorce him" so to speak and that I won't do anything to catch him. I AM DONE!